The Confidence Code

Confidence is everything…

If you are confident, then you believe in yourself. You believe in your ability to take action and accomplish your goals.

But without confidence? You’ll struggle to get what you want in your career and relationships.

In this article I will show you how to be more confident in yourself by giving you 9 actionable tips you can use today.

#1: Practice Facing Rejection

After surveying thousands of men, it’s clear that our #1 fear is failure and rejection.

We are afraid that we are going to fail to live up to the expectations of other people … and our own expectations … and it scares the crap out of us. This is normal, but if you let this fear stop you from going after what you want, then you will never reach your goals.

Instead, you must force yourself to face this fear on a daily basis. This is the only way to overcome it.

#2: Set “Bite-Size” Goals

If you want to be more confident in yourself, then you need to build trust in your ability to get shit done.

You need to prove to yourself that you can take action and accomplish your goals. And the best way to do this is to set small “bite-size” goals that you can accomplish in just a few weeks.

For example, rather than setting the large goal of “getting a new job,” set a smaller goal to “update your resume” or “apply to five different companies.” This way, you can quickly accomplish your goals, build trust in yourself, and create massive momentum in your life.

Right now, think of your #1 goal. How can you make this smaller? What is a realistic goal for the next week or 2?

#3: Identify Your Insecurities

Setting goals is crucial, but defining your fears and insecurities is even more important.

Right now, ask yourself: “What am I embarrassed about or ashamed of? What am I afraid that other people might discover about me?”

Then make a list.

This is a list of your top insecurities. We all have them, so don’t be embarrassed.

However, just making this list will not cause them to magically disappear. But it will help you acknowledge them and accept their reality. If you want to get over them, then I suggest you pick one and share it with a close friend or family member. This will not be easy, but it will help you remove the shame associated with it.

Confidence responds to method, not to pep talks

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